Episode 18: March 26 - You Have To go Through It

When I was a tour guide

through the wilderness of grief,

(we called it a grief recovery group)

one of our cardinal principles was

“You can’t get past grief

without going through it.”

People want to avoid grief.

They want to go around grief.

They want to ignore grief.

They want to deny grief.

They want to speed past grief.

Some people try to drown grief

(you know what I mean.)

One woman drowned it for 15 years.

She thought it was working until

she got clean and sober.

And there it was staring her in the face.

She joined our group

and went through her grief to

get to the other side.

It worked.

Whatever lonely wilderness your life path

takes you through,

don’t be lonely alone.

Allow a friend or two to hold your hand.

Even if they don’t understand,

and don’t know what to say,

allow then to be there anyway.

Insist that they be there anyway.

It will help you get through it

which is the only way to get past it..